"Just cause I love you and you love me; It doesn't mean that we're meant to be"
Jazmine Sullivan
The above quote is the truest statement I've ever heard spoken in my life. As old as I am and as much wisdom as I've been blessed enough to collect to keep and live by. I don't think that I've ever thought about love in a relationship that way.
I don't know about you, but I've been in love with two men at the same time before and it was the most difficult position I've ever been in. Because I always believed that things happen for a reason and so, it must be meant. But that's not always the case. Sometimes things are placed in your path to make you either appreciate what you already have, maybe uplift you to keep you going, or give you a hint of wisdom to do something different. Doesn't always mean that they are meant to stay in your life forever. We've all heard that saying "Some people come into your life for a life time and others for a season." You just need to know when to let go, stop holding onto something that was supposed to be a season. So, with being in that difficult position, I had to exercise great judgment for my future and when you're faced with a decision of that caliber you really become conflicted and doubtful of yourself to be cognizant enough to make the right decision.
One guy made me feel great and on top of the world and I don't believe I could ever not feel great in his presence, his arms. But he had much adolescence to rid himself of and because of that I saw that he had many more trials and tribulations to encounter due to self infliction; and to me, life gives you plenty of those on it's own. He also had a sizable amount of stubborness and pride and in my eyes, I felt that he was not yet seasoned enough to think beyond his actions which in turn could hurt the people around him profoundly and I didn't want to be a victim or a casualty in result of him still learning.
Though he was very intelligent, gifted and a wonderful person, I just saw that my future could endure what he would put me through considering that I had already been through much of an adolescent hell with the other one. In which I endured great pain from that and still hadn't gotten over but during those times we were in the process of growing together and with him, I could see that with time he was getting better and I had already invested so much of my heart and everything else. Often I find that some women go directly with there feelings in regard to making a decision and since they don't think it through, the end result is regret, bitterness but ultimately happy in bed and that's just not what I was really prepared to endure, for I needed and wanted more.
So in conclusion, I had to pass up the one that made me feel as though I could walk on water and keep the one that would catch me if I fell, the one who would put pride aside to do the right thing and make the right decision, not the one who'd let pride rule and would do anything by all means just to prove a point. But I must admit, that though it wasn't meant for us to be together, the sad part is, when every thing comes in to play for him, whomever gets him or have him already will be or is the LUCKIEST girl in the world because he is one gifted individual (not to mention the Lord seems to love him) and all the way around he just needed time to grow into his fullest potential and unfortunately, I had already experienced what I was sure to be too much for me to endure again. Now, we go back to Jazmine Sullivan, I thought about what she said and thought back to my long ago situation and realized that "just cause I loved him and he loved me, did not mean we were meant to be." Wow!!! It's funny to me how you can hear something one day and you can relate it to a situation years ago. It can just pop up. I love sometimes that messages come to me that way.
Well, always remember to think beyond your feelings, try and see what's best for your future because sometimes we don't realize that the decisions we make today could really impact us in some way or another, positive or negative, tomorrow. It's really up to you, you hold all of the cards.
Until...
Currently listening:
Fearless
By Jazmine Sullivan
Release date: 2008-09-23
This article has since been published in the new magazine called "Finding Love Magazine" owned by Sharifah Hardie. Finding Love Magazine was published in April of 2012. My article can be found on (Page 11) please explore the link:
http://issuu.com/loving_life/docs/finding_love_magazine_launch_issue
Jazmine Sullivan
The above quote is the truest statement I've ever heard spoken in my life. As old as I am and as much wisdom as I've been blessed enough to collect to keep and live by. I don't think that I've ever thought about love in a relationship that way.
I don't know about you, but I've been in love with two men at the same time before and it was the most difficult position I've ever been in. Because I always believed that things happen for a reason and so, it must be meant. But that's not always the case. Sometimes things are placed in your path to make you either appreciate what you already have, maybe uplift you to keep you going, or give you a hint of wisdom to do something different. Doesn't always mean that they are meant to stay in your life forever. We've all heard that saying "Some people come into your life for a life time and others for a season." You just need to know when to let go, stop holding onto something that was supposed to be a season. So, with being in that difficult position, I had to exercise great judgment for my future and when you're faced with a decision of that caliber you really become conflicted and doubtful of yourself to be cognizant enough to make the right decision.
One guy made me feel great and on top of the world and I don't believe I could ever not feel great in his presence, his arms. But he had much adolescence to rid himself of and because of that I saw that he had many more trials and tribulations to encounter due to self infliction; and to me, life gives you plenty of those on it's own. He also had a sizable amount of stubborness and pride and in my eyes, I felt that he was not yet seasoned enough to think beyond his actions which in turn could hurt the people around him profoundly and I didn't want to be a victim or a casualty in result of him still learning.
Though he was very intelligent, gifted and a wonderful person, I just saw that my future could endure what he would put me through considering that I had already been through much of an adolescent hell with the other one. In which I endured great pain from that and still hadn't gotten over but during those times we were in the process of growing together and with him, I could see that with time he was getting better and I had already invested so much of my heart and everything else. Often I find that some women go directly with there feelings in regard to making a decision and since they don't think it through, the end result is regret, bitterness but ultimately happy in bed and that's just not what I was really prepared to endure, for I needed and wanted more.
So in conclusion, I had to pass up the one that made me feel as though I could walk on water and keep the one that would catch me if I fell, the one who would put pride aside to do the right thing and make the right decision, not the one who'd let pride rule and would do anything by all means just to prove a point. But I must admit, that though it wasn't meant for us to be together, the sad part is, when every thing comes in to play for him, whomever gets him or have him already will be or is the LUCKIEST girl in the world because he is one gifted individual (not to mention the Lord seems to love him) and all the way around he just needed time to grow into his fullest potential and unfortunately, I had already experienced what I was sure to be too much for me to endure again. Now, we go back to Jazmine Sullivan, I thought about what she said and thought back to my long ago situation and realized that "just cause I loved him and he loved me, did not mean we were meant to be." Wow!!! It's funny to me how you can hear something one day and you can relate it to a situation years ago. It can just pop up. I love sometimes that messages come to me that way.
Well, always remember to think beyond your feelings, try and see what's best for your future because sometimes we don't realize that the decisions we make today could really impact us in some way or another, positive or negative, tomorrow. It's really up to you, you hold all of the cards.
Until...
Currently listening:
Fearless
By Jazmine Sullivan
Release date: 2008-09-23
This article has since been published in the new magazine called "Finding Love Magazine" owned by Sharifah Hardie. Finding Love Magazine was published in April of 2012. My article can be found on (Page 11) please explore the link:
http://issuu.com/loving_life/docs/finding_love_magazine_launch_issue
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