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Friendly Competition

There is no such thing as a friendly competition in my opinion. Simply because I believe that when you have a friend that is in someway finds themselves competing with you. Secretly that means they have a desire to see you beneath them. They have a drive to be the so called special one, they want something that everyone sees and knows about you, that they know they don't possess. 

To me, that can grow into envy and then jealousy and as my mother always say "Jealousy is as cruel as the grave." So, when you start to see this happening, depending on who your friend is, because you're the only one who may know this person intimately; try and talk them, see where their head is at, and if you know for a fact and feel that this will never change. Then, ease your hand out of the lion's den until you've completely disappeared from their existence. Better to remove yourself gracefully than to stay and try and reason with someone that will not understand you, or just don't want to because their plain goal is for you to be the mat that they walk on.

I will leave you will a quote I have created. Please find below:

"When you're in competition with your Friend. You're not a Friend. You're an Enemy." ~Until...

A few Bible Scriptures:
When we use the word “jealous,” we use it in a sense of being envious of someone who has something we do not have. This kind of jealousy is a sin and is not characteristic of a Christian; rather, it shows that we are still being controlled by our own desires (1 Corinthians 3:3). Galatians 5:26 says, “Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”

 Being jealous indicates that we are not satisfied with what God has given us. The Bible tells us to be content with what we have, for God will never fail or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). In order to combat jealousy, we need to become more like Jesus and less like ourselves. We can get to know Him through Bible study, prayer, and fellowship with mature believers. As we learn how to serve others instead of ourselves, our hearts will begin to change. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2).

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